It’s really lovely if you and a friend find that you are pregnant together, or you make a good friend at ante-natal classes. You have someone to share all the hopes and fears with, and someone to laugh with when it can otherwise seem difficult.
Once the babies are born you are a natural twosome, there to offer a shoulder to cry on or to share the delight with. Your babies will be close in age so you can share the developmental milestones.
However, there is one big but to this – don’t allow yourselves to become competitive about which baby is smiling first, or sitting up, or crawling. All mums are incurably sure that their baby is the best, cleverest, most beautiful baby there ever was, and this is how it should be. But don’t expect your friend to share your opinion of your baby, because she knows it’s her baby who is best.
If you keep telling each other all the details of how well your baby is doing, you may just drive each other away. Try to talk about how well your friend’s baby is doing rather than emphasising the brilliance of your own.
And remember to talk about things other than your babies sometimes, perhaps have a meal together occasionally when baby subjects are banned, so you can just enjoy your friendship.